I have gone MIA with my weight loss questions and answers series here on the blog. I am looking forward to bringing this series back to life after last year turned crazy for so many of us. So after nearly a year between my last question and this one here comes question 4. If you ever want to ask a question or share your challenges, comment down below and I will make sure to answer as many questions as I can!!! Each question will be a separate blog post so I can dive in, expand my responses and give as much information as possible! Who knows if these questions may even turn into Never Too Late to Fly Podcast Episodes since we launched our podcast in May of 2020.
I am not by any means an expert, nutritionist, doctor, or professional in any way. I am not going to be giving any specific diet/workout advice, I am just going to share with you what I do and what helps me. After losing 350 pounds, gaining some weight back, recovering from a Binge Eating disorder, and learning to love me through it all, I have learned a lot along my journey and I will be sharing MY OWN OPINIONS AND SUGGESTIONS!!!!
Question From Instagram-@jacquelineadan44
How do you keep a positive attitude when you are losing weight, even when you are struggling?
I love this question. Basically, to sum it up…no one is positive ALL of the time. Not even me. I think accepting this is huge. Understanding this is so important. When you are struggling to feel positive, you are not alone. I am definitely not positive all the time, especially when I am struggling and dealing with disappointments and frustrations when it comes to weight loss. While we can’t prevent hard moments from happening, we can learn how to react in a way that will not cause us to completely give up on ourselves.
While we cannot prevent getting upset, I have found some ways that help me when I am feeling frustrated, and struggling, especially when it comes to weight loss.
Here are 6 ways that help me have a positive attitude despite my weight loss struggles.
Your struggles do not define you
Yes. You heard that right. If you are having a hard time, it doesn’t mean you are a failure, that something is wrong with you, or that things will be hard forever. Your struggles have nothing to do with your worth or value. It has nothing to do with you. It just means at this moment, life is hard, this situation is hard but it also means it will not be like this forever.
Your weight loss struggles do not define you
This one is important for anyone on a weight-loss journey. Weight loss is not easy. It is never going to go as smoothly or as easy as we want it to. We will feel disappointed because things aren’t going the way we want them to go. The reality is, this is out of your control. You cannot control how fast the scale will move. You can do everything “right” and still, that is out of your control. Weight loss is hard. If you are struggling with that, it does not mean something is wrong with you. When you are doing the best you can, giving it your all, and being honest with yourself that is all that matters. If you find yourself struggling with weight loss, remember those struggles do not define you or your worth. Just keep moving forward while making the best choices for yourself.
Weight loss is not everything
Even if weight loss is a goal, it should not be the ONLY thing you are concerned with. You still need to enjoy your life. Not after you lose weight, but now in your current state. There is so much more to life than worrying about just losing weight. When you find yourself struggling with weight loss, try to focus on something else or do something that brings you happiness. Shift your focus to something else that brings you joy.
You will fall down
Reminding myself that there will be hard times, hard moments, moments I will fall down, mess up, or feel like I have failed is ok. Your “mistakes” do not define you. Yes, that means even if you gain weight. It’s important to remember that when we fall down, we have the power to stand back up, dust ourselves off and keep moving forward. You will fall down, but you don’t have to stay there. So get back up and keep moving forward.
Embrace your emotions
If you are sad, be sad. If you are angry, allow yourself to feel angry. Do not try to hold those emotions in. Even if you think it may be a ‘silly” reason to be upset or you are worried others will feel it’s not something worthy of being upset about. You have the right to not be ok all of the time no matter what. Allow those feelings to come out. Cry, yell, scream and let them out. You do not need to be positive all of the time. Sometimes we are upset, and that’s ok. Sometimes we are mad the scale didn’t move and that’s ok. Feel the emotions, release them, let them out. When you are ready, release them. Don’t allow that sadness to hold you back or make you give up. When you are ready, release the negative feelings and keep moving forward. There might not be a way to “fix” what is bothering you, but you can choose to find something that will help you feel a little better. Figure out what you need so you can release those emotions and keep moving forward.
This one helps me so much. A lot of my frustrations come when I feel unprepared. Meal prepping, planning my workouts., planning my food, and having food and snacks ready to go helps lessen that frustration and anxiety for me. I also think it’s important to prepare for the unexpected. I am someone who likes knowing what to expect, but that is not always realistic. Part of my growth is learning to roll with the punches, and reminding myself that things happen that may be out of my control. Sometimes I need to adjust my meals, routine, or schedule and that’s ok. Sometimes we have to switch things up, but that doesn’t mean we have to give up on our goals. The unexpected causes me the most anxiety, but learning to roll with the punches helps me try my best to stay in a positive mood.
Some More Thoughts on Positivity
Being positive doesn’t mean you don’t have struggles or challenges. Being positive means you still have challenges, but you still choose to keep moving forward, keep doing your best, and do not let those challenges stop you from living your life. Being positive means you still have challenges, but that you choose to find the good. We can’t always control what happens, but we can control how we choose to react and respond.
Some Final Thoughts
I hope you find these tips to be helpful. Remember when it comes to weight loss, all we can do is our best. A lot is out of our control. As long as we keep going, keep working hard and keep doing our best, that is all that matters. Weight loss can be a goal but not the only goal. When we focus too much on weight loss we become blind to some other things that matter. We will fall down, slip up, and become upset throughout the journey. But that’s ok. Our challenges do not define us and do not mean something is wrong with us. Allow yourself to cry, but then, wipe those tears, remind yourself how strong you are, smile, and keep moving forward. Not every day will be good, but we can try and find the good in every day!
Disclaimer- Being happy or positive may not be so easy for some, and I am just sharing my personal experience as to what helps me. If you really find yourself struggling mentally I recommend seeking professional help.