Along my weight loss journey, I was constantly comparing where I was to others and constantly wishing I was farther along. I found myself wishing I was at the place others were, and saying “I wish I had her body.”
I was so focused on everyone else, that at the time, I never realized all of the amazing things that I was doing or just how far along I really had come myself! When you are constantly focused on the finish line and worrying about what others are doing, you have no time to recognize or realize just how great you are! You are amazing just the way you are!
Along my journey I was told that “comparison is the thief of joy” and it wasn’t until much later on my journey that I realized and understood what that really meant.
Finally, I realized that if I wanted to fully love myself, take care of myself and believe in myself then I had to focus on well…myself.
Comparing yourself to others is easy to do. I am sure at one point or another we have all done it. Yes I have to admit that I sometimes still find myself slipping back into those old ways of thinking and say, “I wish I was more like her” or “I wish I had what she has.” But these tips have really helped me to try and overcome that constant need to compare myself, my journey or my story to someone else and be able to get rid of those negative feelings when it does happen!
Tips for How I Stopped Comparing Myself to Others
Appreciate what you have
One thing I catch myself saying when things get tricky or difficult is “its not fair.” I find this is my go to phrase when I am overwhelmed or frustrated or again, comparing my life to someone else. Kevin reminds me all the time that “life is not always fair.” I hate it when he tells me this, but it is so true! Life, at times, can definitely be rough and seem like nothing is going to go the way you want it to go. Remember, this happens to everyone!!! It is not just this way for you. I like to remind myself that there is always someone out there who wishes they had everything that I have. It reminds me to be grateful for my life and everything, and everyone, that I have.
Focusing on all of the positive in your own life helps you to stop worrying about other peoples lives. Remember we often show others what we want them to see. Many times you will never know what someone else is really going through or struggling with on the inside. Appearances can be deceiving it may look like they have everything going for them but you never know what they are struggling with by their appearance. This is why it is so important to remember everyone struggles, every one hurts and everyone has hard times, not just you. Focus on what you have and be thankful for your life!
Focus on you
The only person you should ever compete with is yourself. Be better, stronger, wiser and more loving than you were yesterday. This is where you grow and change, hopefully for the better. It is always YOU vs. YOU. When we focus on bettering ourselves a little bit each and every day when you look back after a month or more hopefully, you will be able to see some big changes.
Accept the things that you cannot change, change the things that you have control over and learn to realize the difference between what you actually can and cannot change! Always remember that you must really fight, and fight hard for the things that you want changed. It may not be easy to change but change can be so worth it.
We all Start Somewhere
No one is perfect at everything they do. We all have things in life that we want to be good at, whether it be working out and lifting heavier weight, or losing weight. No matter what it is that we want to accomplish, we all start at the beginning, at the bottom. We are all beginners at some point and have some things that we need to learn and figure out. We all mess up and make mistakes, again nobody is perfect. You cannot compare the beginning of your story to the middle of someone elses. We can not get stuck on the fact that we will fall down or may need more time or more practice to do something. What matters is that you never give up and keep going!
Trust Your Journey
Stop worrying. If it is supposed to happen, it will. I believe that everything happens for a reason at the exact time that it is supposed to happen. Sometimes it is hard to see or understand why something is the way it is, or why it can’t be another way, your way, just keep going. Trust yourself and the path that you are on and know you are going to be ok. Release the feeling to need to have complete control and trust yourself because the reality is, there is no destination, just the journey. You are where you are supposed to be when you are supposed to be there.
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