10 Things I Wish I knew Before Losing Weight


There is so much that goes into losing weight. I wish it were just as simple as getting started and, just lose the weight.  For me, I have always struggled with my weight and at one point, a few years ago, I found myself weighing over 500 pounds.  I set a goal to lose over 300 pounds, and I thought all I have to do is lose weight and all of my problems will go away.  It is, just losing weight right?

Well, it started off as just losing weight, and I quickly found myself becoming a slave to the scale, letting my own self-worth be determined by what the number was on the scale.  I found myself taking 2 steps forward and 10 steps back.  I thought losing weight was all about that…losing weight.  What I did not realize is how much more goes into it.  How it was so much more than just losing weight.  I came up with my top 10 tips that have been helpful for me on my journey and things that I wish I knew before I started my weight loss journey.  I want to share these tips with you too so hopefully you can be successful on this journey of life and help you set yourself up to succeed.

10 Things I Wish I knew Before Losing Weight

1. It Will Be Hard

Realizing and understanding that weight loss is hard and will not come easy, is huge.  Hard does not mean impossible, so realizing it is hard is just something that will help you keep fighting during those times of struggle. Know that it will get better and you will continue to keep getting stronger and stronger the more you fall and keep standing back up. Don’t you dare quit on yourself!

2. Others May Not Understand

This is your journey.  You are making the choices and decisions that are best for you.  These choices that you are making will determine how successful you will be with losing weight.  Other people may not be supportive or might not understand what you are doing or why you are doing it.  That is ok.  This is your journey and your life, not theirs.

3. You Have To Believe In Yourself

Believe that you will be successful and lose the weight!  Your success or failure to reach your goals all being and end with you.  If you think or say you can’t do it, chances are you won’t.  But, if you believe in yourself, know that you can do it, and are disciplined and follow your program, you will be unstoppable!  It does not matter how big of a goal you set or how long it may take to get there.  You, ultimately determine if you will be successful.

4. Weight Loss Will Not Make You Happy

Let me repeat that.  Weight loss will not magically make you happy.  It will not solve all of your problems.  For me, it took loving myself and accepting who I was.  I needed to figure out my own body image issues and my relationship with food.  I needed to figure out the reasons why I was gaining weight and weighing over 500 pounds.   After figuring those things out and working as hard as I could to fix the issues, I started learning about myself and loving myself for who I was.  Learning who I was and loving myself brought me happiness.  I have learned that the number on the scale, the size of my clothes, how good I look in a bikini will not make me happy…Period.  I needed to learn to find happiness from within myself.  When you start loving yourself and taking care of your self, that is when you will find true happiness.

5. Mental changes

Losing weight is just as much a mental challenge as it is a physical one.  Losing weight, gaining weight, loving yourself, the relationships with yourself, food, and the scale…they all involve mental health.  How you feel about yourself and how you talk to yourself will directly impact each and every aspect of your life.  Never let anyone tell you that your mental health does not matter!   Just like you are making changes to take care of your physical health by losing weight, make sure you are taking care of your mental health too.  When you are in a good state of mind it will be much easier to be successful.    

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6. You will “Fall Down” and Make Mistakes

You will fall down…mess up…and you will not be perfect. That is ok.  What is important is that you keep standing back up and never ever allow a slip up to make you give up completely.  The more times we fall down, the stronger we will become every time we stand back up.  You will fall down, but it is how you stand back up that matters.  As long as you are making progress towards your goals, you will be Okay.  It is all about making progress not about being perfect.  One bad choice or decision will not make you lose all of the progress in the same way that one “perfect” day, week or month will not make you lose all of the weight you need to lose.  When you make a mistake or “fall down” admit it, fix it, and keep going after those goals.

7. Lean on Others

Ask for help.  When you feel weak, upset or know that you are struggling, let someone know.  Asking for help does not make you weak.  There are people who love you and will be there for you.  Lean on these people every once and a while.  It may be difficult to find these people and sometimes the people you think will be there for you may not.  Don’t let this stop you from reaching your goals.  Find someone who you can lean on when you need it, even if this person or group is online.  Admit when you feeling weak or are struggling.  Holding on to these feelings does not help anyone and you only end up hurting yourself. Remember, I am always here to support and be here for you too!!  You are never alone!

8. Love Yourself

Love yourself through it all.  Don’t wait until you get to a certain size or number on the scale and don’t wait until others find you worthy.  Love yourself now.  Make the changes because you love yourself enough to do whats right and best for you, not because you don’t love yourself and want to change.  Remember that your self-worth comes from within, not from someone else’s opinion or from a number on the scale or size of your clothes.  You are beautiful, worthy and amazing just like you are right now.  If you are choosing to lose weight, do it because you want to live your best possible life! 

9. Remember, It Is Your Choice

Remembering that I am choosing to make these choices helps me…a lot.  When someone brings donuts to the office, instead of getting angry and upset because they are there and you can’t have one, tell yourself, “I CAN have it, but I am CHOOSING not to have it.  I am making these choices because I want to reach my goals.”  The choices and decisions you make are all up to you.  How you think about things and how you talk to yourself really matters.  If you say, I can’t have that, you feel restricted and become angry and feel left out.  If you switch it up and say, “yes I can have that but I am choosing not to”, that makes you feel like you are the one in control, you have the power.  Remember you are always in complete control of what you choose to eat or do.

10. Make Changes or Lose Weight For You

Never try to lose weight to make someone else happy.  Never try to lose weight because you think someone might like you, make the changes and lose the weight for you.  Make the changes because you want to become a happier healthier you because it is best for you.  Only make changes and lose weight because you love yourself and you want to be the best you that you can be.

I know losing weight is hard, but I hope these tips will help make the journey easier for you.  Understanding and practicing these tips will help set you up for success.  Remember, many times you are stronger than you give yourself credit for.  You are beautiful, worthy, lovable just the way you are.  IF you are choosing to lose weight, make sure you are doing it for the right reasons.  Losing weight will not solve all of your problems.  You have to figure out those problems and that has to come from within.  Remember the journey to lose weight will be hard and it can be scary.  That is ok, the magic is inside of you to succeed, you have the power within you.



1 Comment

  • So…what did you do to figure out your body image issues and your relationship with food issues? I, unfortunately, had WLS but was not given access to anyone to talke about these issues before or after the surgery. They offer that assistance now. I am slowly gaining back the weight I lost. It is frustrating and depressing. I tried a gym. But, my arthritis prohibits me from certain things. I walk all the time. But, that is not enough. I do not always eat the right foods. I still eat small amounts. But, I need to work on eating better.
    You look amazing BTW

    Pam Coleman 17.09.2019

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